I Didn’t Know If I Wanted a Second Kid

Growing up, I wanted to have a big family. I wanted to have five children. FIVE.

However, after experiencing birth and postpartum traumas, the last thought I had on my mind was about having another child.

But, I got all the unwanted comments…

A MALE cardiologist told me “You have to give your kids siblings!”

People would ask when my daughter would get a brother or sister.

Even my husband would - very gently - ask me when I would be ready. 

(To clarify, my husband made it very clear he would support me in whatever I wanted; while also kindly letting me know he would be happy with having one more).

I had so many fears.

What if I had pre-eclampsia again?

What if I had another traumatic birth?

What if I had placenta accreta again?

There were so many unknowns. 

One thing I did know about myself - If I didn’t have another child, I might regret it; but if I had another baby, I wouldn’t regret them.

So for me, personally, I made that difficult decision to have another baby.

And that meant setting myself up for success with the things I did have control over.

The biggest thing was to work with an OBGYN who I could trust, and that was the doctor who did my first D&C during my first postpartum. 

It would still be a long road ahead…

As well as it still felt traumatic to return to the OBGYN office (stay tuned for my post, later this week)...

And this doctor and her team truly helped me begin that healing process.